AnaWelBait

It must be peoples’ love of happy endings that most movies and books indeed have happy endings.  This is true especially with love stories.  Is it because we are really not expecting a continuation, because we are happy enough?  Are we afraid of reality and would prefer to continue to fantasize and feel to the bones the giggling endings we were given?  For me, endings are mere beginnings.  Perhaps, that is why the sequels. 

Here are some of my favorites, and I mean favorites, because these are movies I had watched over and over again as they do take me to the fantastic feeling of falling in love, being in love and wanting to be in love again and again:

 http://movies.yahoo.com/movie/1800191133/info

Sleepless in Seattle:  Annie (Meg Ryan) called off her engagement to be with Sam (Tom Hanks) who wasn’t actually in the look-out for love.  The movie was full of romance in the air that you would really wish for them to be together; it is the best thing to happen.  And well, that’s what happened.  And then I thought: would the relationship work after all?  When reality sets in, it is really a happy union?  They have not started, have the?  So, it is then a new beginning.

http://www.amazon.com/Youve-Got-Mail-Tom-Hanks/dp/6305368171/ref=pd_bbs_3?ie=UTF8&s=dvd&qid=1198326290&sr=1-3

You’ve Got Mail.  Kathleen and Jo (Meg Ryan and Tom Hanks again) are initially two business rivals ending up as lovers through e-mails.  And I thought: what then?  Are they really going to be happy ever after?  We can only be hopeful.  Another new beginning.

 http://movies.yahoo.com/movie/1804476701/info

Someone Like You.  Jane (Ashley Judd) is a brokenhearted woman who is looking for the reason she was dumped.  She became Eddie’s (Hugh Jackman) roommate and friend.  Intrigue, intrigue, you would want them to be together, and of course, they end up together -- as lovers.  The same question: what then?   Will it work?  It, of course, looked like it will as it is the best thing to happen. 

You would think that I myself have a pattern: that I am highly doubtful, I don’t give in to what I am watching, and I don’t cease the moment (of the story), that I have a tendency to be a KJ (kill joy, that is).  Actually “no,” because I am the type who cries at any point in movie-watching and book-reading.  I easily get carried away.  My husband hands me a box of tissue like a well-programmed robot at the hint that the next scene on TV is going to make my tears crawl out.  It’s just that after the crying, I just get back to becoming a realist, though not necessarily a pessimist.  My only point is:  there is never an end to anything.  Everyday is a new beginning, every relationship a continuous affair.  They may be made in heaven, but we definitely make relationships work.  So, although my favorite movies send me the tingle of being in love, I just don’t stop at the ending, I think the real story actually starts there.

I have one movie I thought was going to be my favorite:

http://movies.yahoo.com/movie/1800247909/info

The Bridges of Madison County.  It brought me to tears, fine, for it relives in me the love to fall in love, but that is all about it as it is more about "loving the feeling".  This one left me completely skeptical that Francesca (Meryl Streep) and Robert (Clint Eastwood) will ever find happiness if they were to actually end up together.  I dislike the apparent celebration of an illicit affair that closely borders on lust.  I have a strong feeling that they won’t be able to keep the magic going.  Well, perhaps that is why it ended up that way! 

http://movies.yahoo.com/movie/1800230900/info

Before Sunrise.  I am sure, it is not the typical ending romance movie lovers would like to see, but this is my best, so far.  I just felt that despite the magic, despite the desire to be together, Jesse (Ethan Hawke) and Celine (Julie Delpy) realizes that life, after all, is not about romance alone, although it may definitely be about LOVE.

Now, it is your turn… you may want to define “love” for a start.

When I was younger somebody told me that “friends come and go.”  Sadness was my initial reaction, cause I want to keep my friends.  It must have been idealistic, I am thinking now as I look back, for I know now that it is true.  However, it is still sad despite my knowledge and experience of the truth in it.

Why do we loose friends as we gain new ones? 

Why do we regain friends if we are to loose them again – why get hurt the second time? 

Why do we loose friends and never get them back; where are second chances?

Friendship is a volatile thing; trust is the same.  Forgiveness sometimes comes with convenience or sometimes they don’t come at all -- that I think is the most painful of all.  Loving unconditionally is the most blind but the most satisfying when it at least recognized if not reciprocated.  Otherwise, you are a doormat, or for a better term, idealistic.

This only shows us the imperfect beings that we are, the less-than-perfect world we are to forever live, and the kind of environment we continue to create and nurture.

But we can do better than that.  And that is not being idealistic!

This is my first post as AnaWelBait, but am not new to Vox... I have been around, maybe not that long but I have been around.  It must be some kind of identity crisis, a case of multiple identity, or simply the organized souls Virgos are known to be -- I opened another account to categorize my topics (myself?) rather than put all my thoughts, opinions, judgement, feelings, complains, praises, in just one blog.  So...

... no need to welcome me.  I just hope you allow me to invade your world.